REMINDER: All Mine- 2012

 I have seen something else under the sun: The race is not to the swift or the battle to the strong, nor does food come to the wise or wealth to the brilliant or favor to the learned; but time and chance happen to them all.

Ecclesiastes 9:11

 

So, maybe this year is not exactly what I expected.

But it is truly setting the foundation for some things that are to take place.

I don't know Gods timing and where HE is going to take me within the next few months left in this year.

But in the meantime, I will remind myself of the verse I have bookmarked for myself.

Taming The Tongue

Just a random post about something not many people may know about me and my tongue.

The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.- Proverbs 18:21

Are you quiet
Are you blunt
Are you shy
Are you rude

Do you "Think before you speak?" about how something may effect an individual if not said carefully and with thought. I have always been a bit quiet and internally blunt, if that makes sense; however, when around the right people I kindly, and sometimes rudely, say what's on my mind. I would blame it on my mother, but I know this is one thing we both share in common. However, I never thought of it as verbal abuse. Harsh words hurt and they cut deep. "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me!" is a false statement! Words do hurt! Words do heal! Words plant seeds! Words nurture and water! Words bear fruit! This is why we must be careful when criticizing! We have to criticize out of love! Know when to offer criticism. We have to discipline out of love! Compliments must always be appropriate and not misleading!

Sometimes we do say things we don't intend to say, and we don't realize how bad it may hurt someone. And this is one area I have to grow in, because I never realized it until a dear friend told me the "harshness" of my words of making one feeling little or stupid. There's always a better way to express yourself. Yes, let's admit, sometimes people effect our responses, but that's when we have to grow and learn how to talk to that individual. For me, its been kind of hard and even frustrating, because I rather just say what I feel than to "Think before I speak." 

It's funny though, because I always find it that people like to talk to me and ask my opinion or advice because not only do I listen, but I will keep it real! I have always been a real person, with a little deepness (lol).

So Lord, guard my tongue! Teach me how to speak to your people who make it tough for me!



Guard your tongue from profanity, and no more lying through your teeth.- Psalm 34:13

May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer.- Psalm 19:14

#PersonalGrowth

Easily Charmed

Why is it that females are so easily charmed?
Easily aroused by our emotions.
We open our hearts up
Without carefully grasping this new interest
Why are we so easily charmed?
We forget to stay in hiding
Or should I say
When we come out of hiding
Which follows by being broken
We get so caught up in putting the pieces back together
We forget to return
Or should I say
We forget our way back
Why are we so easily charmed?
We're so caught up with "Finding him"
And not allowing God to let him find you
We can't forget who we are
We are to be courted
To be sought after
We can't run after what we want
We have to hide until who we need finds us
Consume yourself with Gods work
Become a praying woman
Be a maiden of the Most High
And while you're in waiting
He'll come
Don't be easily charmed
Stop crying
Stop chasing
Pick up your Alabaster
Pick up your Purity
Pick up your Heart
Regain self-control
Regain dignity
Regain strength
Become the charmer
Become the beauty
Become the maiden in waiting
Take care of yourself
Save yourself
Purify yourself
Until the true charmer comes
He doesn't want to walk pass you
And you're still down from your past
He'll miss your pretty face
Because you're crying about what "that boy" did
Run back to hiding
Stay hidden
Until God brings him to you
Do not be easily charmed

RED ALERTS When Dating (Writing In The Works aka Incomplete)

Ladies! This is for you! We all want to marry our version of "BOAZ" and in order to be appropriately ready we have to already "BE" what we want our version of "BOAZ" to be! Makes sense right! So just a reminder, make sure you're preparing yourself as "RUTH". But, that's not what I'm here for. I just have some thoughts I want to get out regarding dating.

1. If he can't verbally express to you OR show you what he's passionate about, his dreams, goals, and aspirations; along with who he hopes to be one day *RED ALERT* If you see he's only doing enough for the present tense ladies, question that, ask him what he's doing to secure his future.

2. If he's not interested in knowing more about you, your interest, respecting who you are and what you're going for in life *RED ALERT* Maybe I'm asking for too much, but if he's attracted to you, he should also be interested and questioning you about the things you do.

3. If he's a step backwards from what you've had before *RED ALERT*

4. If he's expecting you to do all of these "special" duties for him, but he's not giving in return *RED ALERT*

#ThePassionOfTheDefender

Naturally I like to refute or somehow play the devils advocate, I don't always do (not many people know this part of me), but when I do I'm very stubborn about it, and no matter how much you prove yourself, I'm still right AND most times I am right (I get that 'know it all syndrome' from my mother)! lol I've always been like that, I guess that's why grandaddy says I should be a lawyer!
I also find myself at times defending people who I know have been in some sort of fault, but deserve the benefit of the doubt. I guess this is where that unconditional love comes in that Jesus tells us to have for his people. Because I see myself still caring for people whom I've seen church people detach themselves from because they were "not in the will of God" therefore because they were not following God's will or willing to help them to get in his will, they neglected them.

I don't know how this post came to be, just a random tangent in my thoughts on this lovely Friday mornig June 29, 2012 at 1:34am :)

"That Girl"

We all have our group of "haters"
Some of us may call them "motivators"
And women,
We all know there this sector
Of young and old women
Who just have it out for you
Envy is what it is,
But when they see you coming
They begin slandering
"Who SHE think....."
"Oh! No SHE didn't..."
"Did you see what SHE...."
As though they have forgotten your name
But then it changes to
"Look at HER..."
"I saw HER with..."
"Did you know HER..."

Well, I'm not here to talk about
Female Drama
I just ran across a memory of my Grandma Ann-Lee Petticolas
She was a Mothers Day baby
And about 10 years ago
She passed away

I never saw much of her
And after her death I regretted it a bit
But just by her Homegoing
I learned soo much about her beauty

The memory I hold close to me are her Christmas Cards
And in those cards you would find a 2 dollar bill
One year with my card and 2 dollar bill
She signed it "That Girl"
*laughs*
Yes, she could not remember my name

You would think that would hurt me
But I knew grandma was old
15 plus grandchildren
And on top of it,
I wasn't around much...
But whenever I was around
And she couldn't remember my name
It was
"That Girl"

I started the post off the way I did because
"That girl"
Sounds like something a "hater" may say
When they are talking about you

Grandma was no hater
In her words
"I LOVE ALL Y'ALL"

"That Girl"
Is my special way of remembering her
To some degree it's almost a humbling statement

(Conversation with grandma)

You know "That Girl"
Troy daughter....
"That Girl"

(LOL)

Grandma Ann-Lee,
I am "That Girl..."

WE HAVE COME TO BE DANCED

Found this on Tracee Ellis Ross facebook page and LOVED IT

We HAVE COME TO BE DANCED
by Jewel Mathieson

We have come to be danced
not the pretty dance
not the pretty pretty, pick me, pick me dance
but the claw our way back into the belly
of the sacred, sensual animal dance
... the unhinged, unplugged, cat is out of its box dance
the holding the precious moment in the palms
of our hands and feet dance

We have come to be danced
not the jiffy booby, shake your booty for him dance
but the wring the sadness from our skin dance
the blow the chip off our shoulder dance
the slap the apology from our posture dance

We have come to be danced
not the monkey see, monkey do dance
one, two dance like you
one two three, dance like me dance
but the grave robber, tomb stalker
tearing scabs & scars open dance
the rub the rhythm raw against our souls dance

WE have come to be danced
not the nice invisible, self conscious shuffle
but the matted hair flying, voodoo mama
shaman shakin’ ancient bones dance
the strip us from our casings, return our wings
sharpen our claws & tongues dance
the shed dead cells and slip into
the luminous skin of love dance

We have come to be danced
not the hold our breath and wallow in the shallow end of the floor dance
but the meeting of the trinity: the body, breath & beat dance
the shout hallelujah from the top of our thighs dance
the mother may I?
yes you may take 10 giant leaps dance
the Olly Olly Oxen Free Free Free dance
the everyone can come to our heaven dance

We have come to be danced
where the kingdom’s collide
in the cathedral of flesh
to burn back into the light
to unravel, to play, to fly, to pray
to root in skin sanctuary
We have come to be danced
WE HAVE COME